We all Fear the day when a Member of our Family or Children will call us and ask for Very Specific Help. I was asking for help myself, some 30 Years ago, on August 8 of 1984. My Mother and I decided that my Drinking had reached a Plateau, where I needed Professional Help, and I agreed to get an Appointment and Appraisal at a Local Treatment Facility. My Daughter: Hiedi stayed with my Mother while I established Alan’s Recovery from the Disease of Alcoholism as my Number #1 Priority in my Life. I graduated on September 8, 1984 from the Treatment Facility: New Beginnings, and I have NEVER looked back or chosen a life style deviant from the Rules and Procedures experienced at this Wonderful Treatment Center.
I was relaxing and drinking some hot coffee at my apartment in Chandler, Arizona when the E-Mail we all fear came electrically into my life forever. I had suspicions the Pain Medications that my Daughter; Hiedi was taking had become addictive, but I never prepared myself for the information and reality that was now laid before me. I knew that my daughter was in trouble but I also remembered from my past addiction experiences that nothing good was going to happen, unless the Recipient asks for help, and seeks the Recovery that so many of our young adults need. I will not talk specifics in this story but I will refer to Pain Meds as the Killer Addiction my Daughter; Hiedi chose to arrest in her path to Recovery.
The E-Mail I received on January 14, 2015 expelled all the symptoms and adversity one sees on T.V., and we pray that such an environment will never reach our Family. My daughter asked me for Help, asked for Treatment, and also asked for my Specific Help when she said: “ Dad; I am in Trouble, I need your Help, I need Detoxification and Treatment, and I Don’t know what to do”? I had experienced Hiedi’s giving up before, and not following a good plan of attack that would lead her to happiness. I had Flashbacks of Hiedi’s Maroon Drug Case in Edmonds, Washington; filled with every Legal Drug: I could not pronounce their names or application in Hiedi’s life? I packed my gear and possessions, terminated my lease, and put the pickup on the road to Minnesota where I awaited the When and Where I could participate in my Daughter’s Life Saving Request for such a Serious Disease.
I arrived home in Minnesota on February 2, 2015 and had been Watching and Communicating with Hiedi, as I drove the 1945 Mile trip with very little sleep. My heart was into the process I had seen fail with so many people and I was not willing to become a negative statistic. I flew to Seattle on February 5, 2015; scared as to what I would find and see. I was very impressed that Hiedi was in good spirits and ready to drive her car. We drove through my final West Coast Rain Storm and finally located a Motel the first night in Cle Elum, Washington and got some sleep. I promised myself that I would not confront Hiedi with her Drug Usage but rather, enforce her thinking about Detox and Recovery, instead of starting a War that I knew I could not win.
The ride through the Rocky Mountains was wonderful! We traveled to Butte, Montana and then to Bismarck, North Dakota before we arrived home in Buffalo, Minnesota. The trip was sweet and the tension was high, as I didn’t know what the withdrawals were going to do, to my Logic and also Hiedi’s Attitude. Our arrival in Minnesota was brightened to a High Luster when a Wright County Human Resources Worker named; Keri helped us move into Detox and Treatment, like an Angel sent from God.
Detox at Unity Hospital was a blessing from Heaven and then, we began the Treatment Center sorting, based on what Rule 25 in Minnesota was willing to initiate. Hiedi’s first Treatment Center was Burkwood in Wisconsin, which turned out to be a Hideout for Drug and Alcohol addicts avoiding Jail Time and Dealing with the Judicial System Assigned Treatment. Hiedi lasted 3 days at the Wisconsin Facility and I brought her home to Safety.
Our next treatment adventure was right here in Buffalo, where Hiedi was placed as an outpatient, and her children and I were her support group every day. As Hiedi grew and realized there was a light at the end of the tunnel, I saw a new Lady start to emerge from the gouged arms and frantic pains from all the withdrawal symptoms; that were as real as a Heart Attack. Hiedi met with me every morning in my living room and we talked about life and looked at some NA Meetings that gave her new exposure to her problem. Hiedi said to me one morning the words that I had used to maintain a sober recovery and win over the “Demon from Hell” that wanted to kill me. Hiedi stated that; “I WANT IT AND I WANT IT TO WORK” !! Enough said: Hiedi is on the road to Recovery and is now getting her 120 Day Medallions and Recognition for a Job “WELL DONE”.
We are all addicts in a kind of way: when the Green Grass appears and the French Deserts appear at the dining table, we assume that everything is OK? I have told Hiedi that she will be in recovery the rest of her life; just like her Daddy. She is very receptive to that Idea and Philosophy. Hiedi has Hit Her Bottom, Chosen Recovery, Climbed the Mountain, Opened the Door to a New Life, and Grasped the Lord’s Hand. I wish Hiedi luck and express to her Daily: “It only takes 3 seconds for we Addicts to throw our Recovery over the Cliff of Life and choose a new route that will end up at the Mortuary”!!! The Power of Life is with Hiedi and her Lord Jesus. Daddy is once again the “OLD GY” that gets the Pajamas for Christmas and the Singing Card for his Birthday! I am so happy that one more item on my Bucket List of Life is complete! Gosh what is next?
This paragraph is for My Readers: We are not capable of changing God’s plan, but we are capable of asking for his Love and Guidance in hard times or in good times. Remember your recovery is NEVER over. You will choose Recovery, Combat the Pain, Feel Better, Experience Serenity, Follow your Lord Jesus, but you are never fully 100% Recovered. BE AWARE; and KNOW HOW to avoid the 3 SECOND DECISON!!