Don't we all know know it?
Somebody makes fun of us, laughs at you behind your back, even follows you a bit down the road, going out of their way to make you look silly. Maybe it's the logo you're wearing, they don't like it because their mean stepsister wore it while teasing them. It might be your age group, the color of your pants or just that they picked anyone from the street to make fun of, anyone, and you are it.
What do you do?
Well, probably you get angry, turn around, scream, raise your middle finger, you might even confront them and beat the living shit out of them, if you are the aggressive kind. Or maybe not.
But what if you do?
They run home to their wealthy daddies and say someone awful just beat the living shit out of them. So their wealthy daddies go to their best friends, the lawyers, and run up a huge lawsuit, blaming you for physical damage and attempting murder. You are dragged into court. Your lawyers try to save your ass, but there's not much they can do, because the wealthy daddies bought the smarmiest lawyers in court and so you lose the case and you are sent to jail, because there's no way in hell you can pay the fine. You get out of jail after a year, trying to get your old job back, but your former boss tells you how bad ex-cons are for business.
In fact, even your ex-girlfriend doesn't want to have anything to do with you after she hung out with your aunt's friends, who are members of the Community of Orderly Housewives, who introduced her to Kenny, who, by the way, was the brother of the one guys who laughed at you behind your back because you were wearing purple pants.
Before this turns into an episode of "The Sopranos", Luigi whiplashing out his Kalaschnikov and splattering all those f...ing dorks to bits, we'll rebleep our vid back to the freeze frame and just suppose we, like in those "Choose Your Future"-books, you choose option two and see how that turns out.
In option two, after you are made fun of, you leave the guys standing there in the doorway. They are surprised to see you don't even react to their attacks. After you leave them, they go about their way, wondering why you ignored them. The two guys both sort of feel guilty about making fun of you. You completely ignoring them makes them feel silly, pointing fingers at people who don't even notice that they are.
You might likely never ever see them again.
There's this wonderful quote about the calm party always winning a fight. Why? It takes two to fight. If one retracts, how is it possible to battle? Or how could it escalate?
What happens when someone hurts your feelings? It wounds you bad, makes you feel silly. To cover that up, you counterattack. But hate means you care. Your biggest and most effective weapon is your tranquility. Yes, happiness is the best revenge. But that sounds bad, doesn't it? Revenge means you are angry. You don't need to be. Bless the people who prosecute you and send them on their way. Concentrate on other things.
Physiologically, calm tranquility connects the neurons and gives the brain possibility to digest and integrate new learned material. An angry and nervous individual has a nervous system that is unable to focus. Focus comes from inner tranquility, concentration. The very nature of that is peace, so a calm individual will always be the understanding one.
We also have to remember that critique is subjective. No matter how objective we claim the criticism is, the nature of it is personal, colored by sociological establishment according to a norm. Someone sets up a norm and says that the other party is ineffective or unproductive or uneducated.
Emperor Joseph the Second claimed that Mozart's music had too many notes. A reviewer claimed Fred Astaire to be a mediocre dancer. A journalist claimed motion pictures were a fad.
Need I say more?
Albert Einstein once said:
"Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish according to its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life thinking it is stupid."
We have to judge a creature according to its own reference point. Is communicating in human words so great? Elephants stands in a circle silently before walking to the water, dogs know ten minutes before the master comes home when he will be there, whales communicate over a distance of a hundred miles, there are parrots that have proven to be telepathic in controlled experiments, plants have shown to have emotional reactions in lie detectors.
A Muslim might judge a Christian to be sent from Hell and vice versa, but if we don't see the big picture we will never improve as a species.
The universe is a huge place.
If it has four million rooms and we judge it according to our personal room, then we will never achieve greatness.
Imagine yourself in the position of your worst enemy and you will realize he is as insecure as you.
The guys in the beginning of my article were actually scared puppies.
Egotists don't love themselves.
They point their fingers at others to distract from the fact that they hate themselves.
Humanitarians love their own souls and the connection to everything there is, not necessarily their bodies, and that is why they are humane.
That leads us to love.
Now love, you might have heard this, is everything.
What or who do you love?
Try this for me. Choose someone today standing at a far distance from you with his or her back to you, a stranger, someone you don't know on the street. Look at that person for a while. That person will turn around and look at you. Why? Vibrations.
You are made of subatomic particles that constantly vibrate. If you are 99,9 percent empty space and the rest of us vibrates, if subatomic particles have been proven to connect with other foreign particles in controlled scientific experiments, even appear out of nowhere in vacuums, we can safely assess and assume that this is our nature as well. Logic tells us that the atmosphere we sense when coming into a new place are the vibrations at work. So you don't have to be a genius to understand that anger has chaotic vibrations and love has organized vibrations, frequencies, whatever we choose to call it. If that is the case, love will focus and support and even create what it focuses on.
What or who do you love?
Your home, your family, your job, your profession, your sport, your music, your sex life, your religion, your cooking, your food, the world, the universe?
Ask yourself what your life is and how the things that have happened in your life happened. What did you love and did it manifest because you loved it? Did you somehow love being a winner or ask others to pamper you? Did you you expect others to feel sorry for you or did you take care of others? How did or do you define yourself?
What or who did you love and how did it change you?
Believe me, love defines you.
If you somehow manage to love everything, nothing can harm you. You can turn every disadvantage to a successful enterprise.
Love is the original vibration.
It is God.
Jesus knows it.
Buddha knows it.
And so do you.
Now turn it into your personal paradise.
It will save your life.