How to find the right friend?

How to find the right friend?(1Mark) Many want to find a real friend, so they date. However, this always has a problem. We can never immediately judge the character of the person we date. You shouldn't only see what a solid friendship leads for the moment. You must see the long-term impact.
A book says, "Most people spend the first years of their lives ruining the last.” That means we should not take a change that has a detrimental effect on our later life. Close friendships therefore influence our lives, whether we like it or not.
But many consider getting to know someone as a kind of pleasure. As a way, to spend an evening or weekend with someone. In this way, a close friendship can lead to sorrow or unhappiness. Even if that doesn't happen, it can still have other disadvantages. One disadvantage is that the interest is limited to only one person. Because you are in a time when you are still developing yourself. Such a development is interrupted and inhibited through a firm friendship.
You can find real pleasure in talking to others. Learning with them, acquiring skills, or working on specific tasks. To do something together and to travel. And it can be a great pleasure to do all this with someone of the same gender or in a group. You will often find that the larger the circle of friends, the greater the joy.
But how can you find someone for life?
In principle, it is sensible not to look for someone too quickly. It would not be good to have one friendship after another, love affairs, or a series of flirtations. It would be sensible, to get to know someone in a group.
Why?
It is then easier to find out what characteristics someone has. How he reacts in certain situations. When someone doesn't watch us, we show, who we are. If you are alone with the person, both try to behave in a way that pleases the other. You like or dislike things, just like the other. Sometimes this disguises the own personality. When you are in love then you see all things through rose-colored glasses. This can lead to a rude awakening.
One should be honest with the other. Then you will get to know what the other person likes or dislikes. You get to know his standards, his habits and his views. You learn to deal with his temperament and genetic predispositions, as well as how he responds to challenges.
You can ask yourself the following questions:
Is your new partner kind, generous, and compassionate?
Does he respect his parents and elder persons?
Is he modest and humble or arrogant and stubborn?
Can he control himself and is he balanced, or does he let himself go?
Does he have the habit of sulking?
Does he even throw tantrums from time to time?
Is he lazy or irresponsible?
Does he tend to be wasteful with money?
What are his plans for the future?
Would you like to have children?
These are important questions. It was found that unhappy couples had very different thoughts about the goals and values of life. If you notice serious differences, you should not deceive yourself. By thinking that it will improve or pass away.
This advice is found in a special book: the Holy Scripture. If you want to look it up yourself, you can do it via these information sources:
www.jw.org
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