I have a friend

I have a friend(Timothy Lanham) I’ve had a friend for over fifty years, and I’d love to tell you about him. I didn’t know him in his younger years, but I’ve heard plenty of stories about those days.
He grew up in a modest family with three brothers. His dad, Joe, worked in construction, a trade the rest of the family followed. But my friend was different. Even as a young boy, he stood out for his curiosity and love of learning. When political unrest broke out in their country, his family was forced to flee to a neighboring land for safety. They lived as exiles for a time until the conflict settled, allowing them to return home.
He was a deeply studious young man and, unlike his family, chose not to enter the construction business. Instead, he became a teacher—the first in his family to do so. From all accounts, he was an extraordinary teacher. If you asked anyone who knew him, they’d tell you his lessons were deeply inspiring, touching hearts as much as minds.
Teaching wasn’t his only passion. Around the same time, he started a band—a group of men who traveled together, performing for large crowds. Their gatherings were often held outdoors, in open fields, and drew numbers that some said rivaled the energy of a Woodstock, minus the drugs. Not everyone in the audience was well-behaved, though. He welcomed everyone—criminals, outcasts, even women with rough reputations. To him, no one was beyond redemption.
I first met him when I was 14 years old in Wisconsin. At the time, I was living in Green Bay. Even after my family moved to the Kansas City area, we stayed in touch. He’s been a steadfast friend through the years, always offering wise, thoughtful advice.
But his life hasn’t been without trouble. While he was teaching and traveling with his band, he found himself at odds with the government and the education system. His progressive methods and the company he kept drew suspicion. The authorities accused him of corrupting others and spreading falsehoods. The charges were baseless, but the system worked against him.
He once wrote me a letter describing his arrest. He was alone in a garden, simply reflecting, when officials burst in and dragged him away without even explaining why. To make matters worse, one of his bandmates had betrayed him, tipping off the authorities in exchange for money.
At the trial, the government’s case was built on lies and exaggerations. Witness after witness distorted his teachings and questioned his character. Despite his innocence, he was convicted.
After the trial, things took a darker turn. His conviction led to a harsh sentence, one that didn’t fit the so-called crime. The authorities wanted to make an example of him, to silence his voice and erase his influence. Despite the injustice, he didn’t fight back or show bitterness. Instead, he faced it all with a quiet strength that amazed everyone who knew him.
Even in the face of the ultimate punishment, he thought of others. He forgave those who wronged him, even the friend who betrayed him. He offered words of hope and comfort to those around him, right up until the end.
But here’s the remarkable part of the story: his death wasn’t the end. The impact he left on those who knew him, and even on those who only heard about him, grew far beyond what anyone could have imagined. His teachings, his kindness, and his example inspired a movement that spread across the world. His life and message have continued to guide and comfort me through the years, especially when life feels overwhelming.
Even now, decades later, I feel his presence. It’s not something I can fully explain, but it’s real. He’s still my friend, and his advice still rings true: to love without limits, to forgive freely, and to trust that even in the darkest moments, there is light.
I’m grateful every day for the chance to have known him, even if only in part. He was, and still is, the greatest friend I’ve ever had.