Love the Mind: Sapiosexuality

There’s a line from a song that I sometimes listen to:

“Love my mind, not just my body.”

For someone like me—someone who is emotional, intuitive, curious, and creative—this line speaks a deep truth.

I say this because not too long ago, I had Google’s AI program, Gemini, read a few of my stories. While reviewing them and offering its thoughts, it pointed something out that made me pause and reflect.

Many of my characters seem to have a Sapiosexual trait.

For those who may need clarification, Sapiosexuality refers to an attraction to people who are clever, witty, or who possess an intelligence that is intriguing and stimulating.

When I read that observation, I began to think about myself and the kind of people I naturally feel drawn to meeting or connecting with.

I enjoy people who have vivid imaginations that they express through writing or art. I like hearing people tell stories about their travels—stories that sound like adventures rather than lectures. I appreciate those who enjoy reimagining fairy tales or exploring new interpretations of old ideas. I also enjoy people who can hold a conversation about almost anything (with the exception of politics, and often religion).

Mostly, I appreciate people who think outside the box.

I connect best with people who are emotionally intelligent and open—people who are curious and ask questions. Not because they want information they can later use against someone, or simply to analyze others, but because they genuinely enjoy learning and understanding the world around them.

These are the kinds of people I feel drawn to and enjoy having as companions.

As for myself, I am constantly curious about things. I like learning about different subjects simply for the sake of discovering something new.

Does this make me unusual?

To people who focus solely on the superficial, I’m sure it might. It may even make me seem timid or boring to them.

But to someone whose inner world is filled with nerdy facts about technology, the realms of D&D, astrology and astronomy, ancient history, modern and postmodern history, music, art, architecture, food and wine, and so much more—

and who is also friendly, open, and honest—

we are not boring at all.

We simply want to connect with people on a level that sparks curiosity and keeps us intrigued.

Intrigued long enough to realize that perhaps you are someone we would like to spend time with.