Absolute and Unbeatable Thought for Lifetime...

“Raat ko chupke se aati hai neend. Kuch khushiyo ke sapne lati hai neend. Kehti hai sapno ke aagosh me kho jao, bhul ke sare gum chupke se so jao….”

Neend, or sleep, as we often say, is indeed having bigger connotation- Sleep, even when you're afraid of what the dreams might bring. What makes you brave is your willingness to live through your terrible life and hold your head up high the next day. So don't live life in fear. Because you are stronger now, after all the crap has happened, than you ever were back before it started.

Most people experience the loss of a loved one as a painful, confusing and disruptive event. It’s pitiful to watch. The mouth is left open, or eyes are protruding out of the sockets, brow furrowed, hands or legs amputated, blood oozing out from each and every bruise. And now, here he lay, helpless against his own suffering, helpless against a treatment that was more painful and merciless than death itself.

Truth and falsehood, right and wrong- are not always clear cut black and white pictures. There are intervening in between shades of gray, a region where uncertainty delays decision and controversial arguments cloud the mind. I can’t resist myself to pen down at this moment a beautiful verse- “From the unreal lead me to the real. From darkness lead me to light. From death lead me to immortality.”

Death is a serious subject but it is also an unavoidable fact of life. We live life as if death doesn't exist and it need not be mentioned. The subject itself is a taboo. But the more we understand death and dying, the more we can understand the life and living... Death is but a natural process whereby all material forms are thrown into the crucible for reproduction in fresh diversity.

As Buddha said, “This existence of ours is as transient as autumn clouds. To watch the death and birth of a being is like looking at the movements of a dance. A lifetime is like a flash of lightening in the sky. Rushing by like a torrent down a steep mountain.”

There is not a universal set of fixed rules to mourning. Everyone mourns differently. It is strength. You incorporate the loss into the inner landscape of who you are. Embrace the moment of spiritual grief and let the tears flow. It's okay to feel and to express your feelings. Mourning is not the end of the relationship. We meet their absence everywhere. Those who passed away want us to live. The animated soul has been laid to rest but the spiritual soul is still very active. The sacred inspires awe, fear and discomfort. Our job is to help the mourner explore the scary realm of sadness of death. Our love for the departed souls does not die with them. We go from loving them in the present to loving them in the absence.

Yes, the experience of loss, particularly through death, is usually a confusing experience that triggers a search for meaning in the majority of bereaved persons. But accepting the reality of loss, acknowledging the pain of the loss, adapting to an environment in which the deceased is missing and emotionally relocating the deceased and moving on with life proves to be an absolute wonder or magic. In order to witness those sparks of elation in the griever, there is no other way than to reconstruct the meaning of one’s life which is possible only by reviewing one’s life with a special emphasis on placing the meaning of the loss into one’s lifeline and defining oneself following the loss.

So, on a positive note let me put it in this way- Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success. And as it is said, life is like a piano, the white keys represent happiness and the black show sadness. But as you go through life’s journey, remember that the black keys also create music…